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Day One Hundred and Eighty-Seven:  Third Time’s a Charm

Jess’s Advice Series #7:  Growing Up

Responsibility is not the only thing that grows as time passes.  You grow up.  Things change, things like your relationship with your family and friends, your feelings towards things like skateboards and mall parking lots, and first and foremost your relationship with school.  I’ve written many-a-blogs about school and how frustrating it is to figure it all out.  But I think it isn’t school that really is getting to me, it’s figuring out what I would succeed in and what I would actually enjoy doing.  The trick to growing up is to pretend that you know what’s up and then jump onto certain things as they come up.  Take opportunities, make choices go out spend money.  That’s growing up, or to me it is.

The biggest, scariest change that comes with growing up is challenging yourself.  I’ve been looking into finishing programs for next year and have come across a lot of things that look interesting and fun, but most of all they will be challenging.  Do I even want to do a masters?  Or do I want to get my Bed?  Is just travelling for a year really a thing?  Or should I start working and make a living for once?  Growing up is about making challenging decisions it eems, and so my advice to you is to make some bold ones.

Become a bold grown up.  Grow up in style, make big decisions and live an exciting life.  Hey, an exciting life for me sometimes is having a mimosa before eleven thirty am, so live like you want.  That’s another portion to this advice post:  Live the way you want to.  Grow up how you think you should.  Yes your parents will say somethings, my grandpa told me to get a government job because there will always be money in that and to not do anything too specific.  Well Grandpa, I’d love to, but sometimes I don’t agree with what the government has to say, and I think what I have to say might be more important to me than money…

Someone told me a few days ago that it’s the lifestyle you should be looking for not the materialistic, insides to that life.  I sort of agree with this.  My lifestyle right now is one of a student:  Make money get educated and drink beer.  I think the lifestyle that I want will depend on the soulmates I’ve surrounded myself with, and that’s kind of the point to me.

The people.  Where I am.  What I’m looking at out my front window.  Growing up is about making choices, and for me right now it’s about making the right choice to be where I need to be.  I think I made a big decision this afternoon about next summer, and the upcoming year of my life.  Making those big decisions starts with university I’d say and never quite ends.  The funny thing about growing up is that it doesn’t end at a career, or marriage, or retirement, “growing up” seems to be the term that we allocate to “doing things to ensure a quality within life.”

So I change this advice to make bold decisions about the quality of life you want to lead…and stick to it, and make it happen.  I hear and read a lot about people who believe they can’t…”change their stars” as it were, but honestly if you want something you’ll make it happen.  And if you don’t make it happen I don’t quite think you’ve started your “grown up” stage yet.

Maybe this is only all relative to me, but what can I say?  This is all coming from me.  You can read this advice from the past week and think I’m full of shit, but what I’m trying to get at here is that I think this is important and I want to share it with people.  This blog has been a part of my journey to grow up, because I haven’t let my words and the possibility of my words only being relateable to me stop me.  I don’t let much stop me, actually.

So, good luck, and I wish you all the best on your journeys.

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